Tea of the Day: Orange Spice by Summit Spice and Tea
Description:Well-balanced flavor without being too sweet. Excellent with a splash of milk.
Smells like orange with a hint of spicy. Kinda smells like something you would make when you don’t feel good
Liquor is an orangey red-brown in the cup
Tastes like oranges, but not as strongly as you’d expect from the smell. The spicy that you smell is only really a warmness left in the mouth after the tea is swallowed. Adding sugar doesn’t change much.
Tea Rating: 2.5/5
Today, a more serious topic than my usual fare.
As part of a national movement to reduce the number of sexual assaults on college campuses, my university has rolled out an online educational program about assualt, harrasment and stalking: what these things are, what the warning signs are, how you can help someone who you see having these kinds of issues, what you can do for someone who tells you about such an occurance, and the kinds of things that can be done to prevent such things from happening in the first place.
As I was going through the program, I just kept thinking about my own experiences with these kinds of things, both in my own life in the lives of my friends.
I’m not going to go into a long tirade about how much it’s royally ridiculous that we even need such programs, becaus that kind of complaint won’t help the situation. I do however, have a few things to say that I feel are important
People are not objects. You don’t own your boyfriend or girlfriend, and they don’t own you.
Relationships should be based on mutual respect and consideration, not a power play of one person over the other
It is never ok to force someone into a sexual act. No one is asking for it. The way a girl dresses doesn’t have to mean they’re down to fuck. You can’t automatically assume that a guy wants to have sex, no matter what he body might appear to be saying. (i.e.: a boner doesn’t mean consent)
Yes means yes. No means no. Simple as that.
It’s not ok to make fun of someone for not wanting to have sex, back to that respec thing again, but in a broader sense.
It’s ok to stand up to people who are making you uncomfortable or who seem to be picking on someone else. Please do, you never know how much of a difference a simple “Hey man, that’s not cool” could make.
Now, to ge to the really important bits:
It is NOT your fault. You did not asked to get raped, or abused, or treated with disrespect.
Relationship violence is not always physcial. If you’re with someone who makes you feel unsafe. If you spend all your time walking on eggshells because you’re afraid of what your partner might do or say, you are not safe.
You have the right to walk away from an unsafe or unhealthy relationship. You are allowed to take care of yourself. You don’t have to be with someone to be whole, and you certainly don’t have to stay in a bad situation
There is no shame in asking for help. If you find yourself in a bad situation but feel like it’s too big of an issue to tackle on your own, please reach out. To friends, to family, someone. You don’t have to go through anything alone
“Have a big enough heart to love unconditionally, and a broad enough mind to embrace the differences that make each of us unique.”