Tea of the day: Blackberry by Summit Spice and Tea
Description: A full leaf black tea with a smooth blackberry flavor
Dry tea smells dark, rich, and decadent; berries dipped in chocolate
Liquor is reddish brown in the cup
Steeped tea smells rich and fruity
Before sugar, has a coffee taste to it. Adding sugar brings out the sweetness of the berry flavoring, as well as a slight tartness. The taste lingers in the mouth, full and satisfying
Tea Rating: 4.5/5
I’ve heard it said that the “real relationship” between two people does not start until after the first fight.
This bothered me; I found it both insulting and depressing to think that you can’t have something true until after you fight, like we humans are our truest selves when we’re fighting.
I still find it a little sad, but it bothers me less on a personal level
This is because I have come to realize something: many people today do not truly communicate, person to person, anymore. Our digital lives consume so many that every action is part of and orchestrated plan to create this perfect image of ourselves. Because there are so many different media outlets, it’s not often that our guards are dropped and we communicate honestly.
Anger, unfortunately, bridges that gap. It’s something like being drunk, our filters come down and out comes exactly how we feel at that given moment. So, with a lot of people putting up a constant act, the first time two people fight can be a real eye-opener. Those two people are seeing the person behind the screen maybe for the first time. If their bond survives that sight, then the relationship can continue, hopefully with more understanding and growing together.
Personally, I think that the first fight should not be the first time you really see someone whom you profess to care about and cares about you in return. Whatever the relationship, friendship or otherwise, you’ll both be better off it you’re willing to openly communicate from the beginning. You have flaws, so will your friend or lover or companion. Be raw, be a little vulnerable, be you. Time spent on hiding is time wasted, time that could be spent truly living this one life that we have
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned” Buddha